Love is Blind. Friendship is Clairvoyant!
come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime.
you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do.
someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you
have expressed outwardly or inwardly. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide
you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or
spiritually. They may seem like a
godsend, and they are. They are
there for a reason you need them to be.
Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this
person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes
they walk away. Sometimes they act
up or out and force you to take a stand. What
we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work
is done. The prayer you sent up has
been answered and it is now time to move on.
people come into your life for a SEASON, it is because your turn has come
to share, grow, or learn. They may
bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.
relationships teach you lifetime lessons; those things you must build upon in
order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person; and put what you have
learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.
Someone also said that the best way to keep friendships from breaking is not to
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Personal Village: How to have people in your life by choice, not chance
Solutions for a Fragmented Society, July 17, 2004"To achieve intimacy with another, we have to begin by
listening." ~Marvin Thomas
Marvin Thomas has written a fascinating book on friendship in the modern
world. He is a Seattle author who earned his Master's in Social Work at the
University of Washington. Through his life he has experienced the beauty of
friendship and observed patterns that feed our genetically encoded desires to
find relationships. He has also seen the damage of isolation and explains how we
can use the "Principal of Seven" to fill our world with friends.
While we continue to be enamored with technology, we have become more and
more isolated and yet the desire for friendship is still a force that drives us
to seek companionship in our environments. While Marvin Thomas agrees that
computers amplify the mind, he believes we cannot thrive when isolated. He also
The basic universal needs
The essential ingredients of a healthy community
Why relationships need to be tended to on a regular basis
How you can find friends with similar interests
What to ask someone new when you first meet
How to keep a friendship for life
Most of us seem to keep connected with friends and family through e-mails.
Marvin explores this idea and explains how e-mail can be like a journal that
talks back to you. While e-mail may encourage deeper contemplation because you
have time to consider what you want to say, Marvin Thomas encourages real-life
relationships where you can nourish your soul through face-to-face intimate
Throughout "Personal Village" I had quite a few good laughs and
many moments of enlightenment. The reading resources and movie suggestions
looked tantalizing. Each chapter ends with a summary and a resource section. I
loved the mention of the "Mostly Martha" movie, one of my all-time
favorite chef movies.
Since I have just moved to a new community, this book was a comfort to me in
a time when I felt everything was new and I didn't know a soul. After reading
this book, I found myself venturing out more into my community and unlike other
times in the past, I actually ventured out early and with a sense of
determination. The girls at Pier 1 were discussing Josh Groban (so we talked
about the concert I reviewed), the lady at the post office gave me directions on
how to get back home and everyone seemed most helpful. I met a neighbor after
going out for a walk and the community I'm living in seems to be much more
geared towards common areas where people can meet or walk.
The advice in this book works and will encourage you to participate more
fully in your community. I learned so much about basic human interaction that
I'd never considered before. Marvin Thomas has filled "Personal
Village" with a lifetime of wisdom and a collection of interesting and
inspirational ideas to enable you to live a fuller, more enjoyable life no
matter where you live. After reading his book, you may even want to start a cozy
coterie or salon. My heart is dreaming of a Mystic Beach mentioned in this book.
Our hearts want to find a place where we are loved, needed and appreciated.
~The Rebecca Review
Staying in Contact with Friends
Poetry, cards, quotes
Raspberry Cookies for Tea with Friends
There is magic in
long-distance friendships. They let you relate to other human beings in a way
that goes beyond being physically together and is often more profound. ~Diana
Oh, the comfort—the
inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person—having neither to weigh thoughts nor measure words, but pouring them all right out,
just as they are, chaff and grain together; certain that a faithful hand will take
and sift them, keep what is worth keeping what is worth keeping, and then with the breath of kindness blow the rest away. Home is where your Friends are. There's no place like it.
~Dinah Maria Mulock Craik
no action or thought of mine in which I do not miss him, as he would have missed
me. For just as he infinitely surpassed me in every other talent and virtue, so
did he also in the duties of friendship. ~ Michel Montaigne (1533-1952)
friend is your needs answered. ~Kahlil Gibran, The Prophet
Ice Cream for a Party or Buy a Gift for a Friend
Sunflower Serenity The Candlelight Guitarist
An Artist's Heart, April 4, 2007
"Far away there in the sunshine are my highest aspirations. I
may not reach them, but I can look up and see their beauty,
believe in them, and try to follow where they lead." ~Louisa
Guitar solos invite you into a place of deep relaxation where you
can renew your spirit. Bradley Powell's "Sunflower
Serenity" is the first in a series called Watercolor Odysey
that explores life's journey.
This healing and warm melodious experience is filled with heart
healing energy. Dreamy guitar takes center stage as a rich
landscape of sounds creates a moment of reflection. The tracks
melt beautifully together to create an escape into serenity.
Bradley Powell's flawless playing allows you to completely relax
into sleep or relax into an evening of candlelight and romance.
I've fallen into a peaceful sleep while listening to this music
and have also spent relaxing afternoons reading while The
Candlelight Guitarist wove an intricate tapestry of sounds to
nurture my heart.
Bradley Powell's music soothes the soul and leads you into a
tranquil space of musical paradise.
~The Rebecca Review